Melanoma Warning
Did/Do your adoptive parents do a lot of pretending?
About your medical history–like pretended theirs was YOURS? My afather is always telling me I should get checked for some ailment or condition he or amother have. He had a melanoma spot removed and warned me to ‘get examined RIGHT AWAY”
Or my amother, who had breast cancer, telling me I need to check for lumps all the time, “because Sxxxx gets them, too! “Umm, Sxxx is her bio daughter. I have told her breast cancer doesn’t run in my family, and I get yearly mammograms, but she still says I’d better “watch out”.
Or ancestry, for example my afather used to say I had “soft skin just like your grandmother’s” (my amother’s mother) or point out something German, and say “that’s where our relatives came from!”
Or will comment on a trait of mine, and say, “I don’t know where you got that from!” And I’ll say, “From Bxxx” (natural mother). They just say, “Oh.”
Why is it so hard for adoptive parents to acknowledge that we are our own people?
When they adopted you, you became part of their family. Be thankful that they think of you as theirs. When they say those things its because they care about you and you are their child. They are not discriminating. I’m sure they know you are your own person, but that doesn’t stop them from worrying about you.
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